…When I arrived home the following situation would be like, as soon I opened the door, my kids were playing on their devices most of the time since they arrive from school, the sink full of dirty dishes, and the garbage piled…that made me crazy, and then I started to yell to them. “You go wash the dishes! You take the garbage out! Bring me the notes book, I want to check if your homework is done!” My husband is a really nice guy, and I love him, but he prefers to not argue with them, so he waits for me to put the order in the house (for my kids, I am the bad guy, the meanest mother in the entire world and of course the worse person ever) I am the one who says NO, the one how put rules and the one who had to deal with fights.
When everything moved online, in the beginning, I was okay with the idea of having classes online, I was focusing on the positive things like safety, time, money, and able to do my other things at home. Thank God, my kids and I all have devices to connect to the classes, and also, we have wifi. Things turned difficult when we all needed to connect at the same time. Four people in a small apartment are trying to find a place to receive the class: my younger son (5th grade) in the kitchen, my older son (college student) in his room, my daughter (high school student) in her room, and me in the living room. Then the internet was acting because all of us were using it at the same time. I learned how to use Blackboard, I did not have any idea how to use it, I quickly learned, but frustration arose when I was trying to send my homework and I did not have the internet. I remember once, I had a math exam and the professor gave us time to do the exercises and show our work. I had 15 minutes remaining when I finished so I started to take pictures of my work and try to send it, the time passed and I did not have success. I was so frustrated, I couldn’t send my professor an email, anything because my internet was off and I began to cry, my children came over and asked what was wrong, I felt so bad because I was supposed to be strong for them and now they saw me so fragile in this situation.
When COVID-19 came, I felt like I was abruptly stopped from my race. The pandemic was a roller coaster which also gave me a tremendous lesson. This crisis changed my life in many ways. For example, I learned to slow down, stop worrying if the dishes were clean or not, and begin to enjoy every moment in life with my loved ones. I learned to listen to others ‘ concerns, be there to hear their challenges and walked an extra mile with them by finding sources. People in the community were calling because they did not have money to pay the rent or to buy food, and sometimes to buried their loved ones. In the organization that I work for, we did a cash distribution in order to bring some relief to those families. I asked my children to help me to draw and write notes for those families in need. Between my work, school, family, and my own issues. It was time for me to ask for help as well. I reach out to my professors and my supervisor and talk about how I was feeling, and I support from then, that to help me to thrive.
There was no escape, COVID 19 put us in a situation where we can say goodbye to our loved ones, no hugs because we can turn to harm. I was able to do my work from home, but a part-time job the income was that much. Yet, things changed when my husband lost his job. We hear in the news the cases were up and things were just worse and worse. I eventually stopped watching the news because it was affecting me negatively. Therefore I started to look for activities to do with my kids, cooking was one of the things. We made different things that we did not try to do before like cookies, pizza, jams, flans, pupusas, etc. I learned how to play UNO, Monopoly, dominos, casino, and Roblox (we have so much fun). Watching movies, I think we saw all Disney movies. My husband sometimes fell asleep in the middle of the movie, but it was okay. Those activities were opportunities to share our feelings, concerns, we sometimes end laughing or cried together.
In conclusion, even though the pandemic ruined my plans or projections it also changes my life in many ways, COVID gives me a lesson that made me stop, reflex, and enjoyed the most beautiful thing I have, my family. We still have our differences but we have a better and close relationship. Yet, I have to maintain the order and to keep telling them what to do, but now I realized that having them here safe and healthy is a gift, a blessing a privilege and I am not let irrelevant things ruin.
